define: Trust

reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.

This is the definition when you Google is. But, aren’t those different?

“Jar Jar has the best intentions and does try and give his all when he says he will”

There are some I trust because they try what they say they will try. They are reliable in that way. But maybe I don’t trust they will be completely honest with me, I don’t trust their ability to do what I need them to do, I don’t trust the consistency of thought… but I do trust if they say they’ll do something they will at least try to do it.

“Darth Sidious… I trust he will do what is best for Darth Sidious”

There are some that I trust they will be consistent. I may believe they will consistently do what is best for them regardless of the impact on others. I may even trust the outcomes will be achieved when they set out to do a thing. I just may not trust that our values and world views are in alignment. I may not trust their intent has my best interest as a part of the consideration. But I may trust that they are very effective.

“Anakin… I trust will get results”

There are some I trust with a specific skill or in a specific situation. Do I trust that they will be consistent in areas outside of those specific situations? Do I trust their purity of heart? Do I trust their values align with my own? Do I trust that we won’t have to fix other things they break in pursuit of the results? Maybe not. But, when we need X done, we can trust them.

“I trust Ahsoka with my life”

Then there is what I refer to as ultimate trust. Where personal values alignment is clear. World perspective alignment is clear. There is a mountain of evidence where you needed each other and you showed up for each other. Where you give the benefit of the doubt and assuming positive intent is easy (to the point you can’t imagine a situation where their intent isn’t pure and their ability to achieve what they set out to achieve isn’t likely). This is the type of trust that transcends mutual respect. This is that rare type of trust that is the grounds for love and adoration. This is the type of trust that you will go into any battle with and never look over your shoulder because you know that regardless of if they can accomplish a thing, they are going to give their all and have your back unconditionally.

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What is the point of getting this detailed?

In five dysfunctions of a team Lencioni says trust is the foundation on top of which everything else must be built. I wonder what type of trust he was referring to?

I’ve always assumed the last one. But that last one is incredibly rare and difficult. So did he mean something less than ultimate trust? I’ll have to reread the book and will report back.

In the meantime… ask yourself… “do I trust person X”, and if so what does that mean to you.

I’d love to hear and converse to you about this… hit me up on: Threads: https://www.threads.net/@alrthree Or LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthree

– UPDATE –

Reread portions of Five Dysfunctions and watched this video (must watch). The following table is how I’m thinking of Vulnerability-based trust (which by the way is the Ahsoka-style trust from above… I think… but I’m conflicted still).